Stop Funding the Faux DINK Lifestyle
- rstinson10
- Dec 18, 2024
- 6 min read
Updated: Apr 17
A DINK
A DINK ("Duel Income No Kids") is a term for married adults who chose not to have children. They embrace freedom in their available time and finances from not having children to care for; and they may even brag about this type of lifestyle online by posting photos of themselves at restuarants or other similar activities. Some even brag directly about being unburdened from the responsibility of raising children. For others their intention is to delay having children 3 or 5 years later after getting married, so that they have time to enjoy themselves together. In any case, the married couple is choosing to not have children, perhaps until later or not at all. Of course, regardless of their intentions, these lifestyles can have negative consequences: often the wife will discover that they waited too long; or perhaps the married relationship loses is romanticism, becoming stale, leading to a break-up. Or perhaps one of the spouses wasn't really on-board with the concept of not having children and later changes their mind.
Public School Parents that do not Direct their Child's Education are Faux-DINKS
They embrace the DINK lifestyle and use public school as a kind of “free” (it's not free at all) childcare at the taxpayer's expense to enjoy having kids without parenting. They complain when school is closed for a holiday break or a snow day and openly celebrate when the children return to school. This is not OK. We should not normalize this kind of attitude.
We need to stop funding this lifestyle choice!
By continuing to vote to give public schools a blank cheque, you are supporting the negligent, lazy, permissive, "Faux-DINK" parenting lifestyle. DNR school funding!
Public schooling should be reduced to the basics.
It is not child care!
Yes, Parents should have kid free time. However, the amount of time Public school families have without their kids is excessive and neglectful.
Moms should have an opportunity get their hair cut, go to the dentist, exercise, dabble in a hobby and go on a date with their husband. There are also situations like attending a wedding, buying a home or a new car where it is ideal for the parents to attend without children. But the Faux-DINK lifestyle takes this concept to an extreme, setting up a leisure based lifestyles as a higher importance than the upbringing of children.
Public School children are Hardly ever with their Parents
The amount of time public children are away from their parents is excessive and neglectful. Between before-school care, public schooling, after-school care, and extra curricular activities, its not necessary for parent to participate in their children's upbringing, since their children are effectively being parented by others. After placing their children in any or all of these "cares" provided by others, parents only need to maybe feed their children dinner and then plop them in front of the TV (or worse, an iPad) and "call it a night". Moreover, parents are no longer even required to provide transportation or meals for their kids due to school buses and tax payer funded school lunch *and* breakfast programs. Children are also away from their parents at summer camps during the summer months.
Here is a news segment of how over busy children are: link.
Here is a link of a day care worker creator discussing how parents complain that the day care is closed on the weekends and how disengaged parents are with their children. Link
Parents who engage in this lifestyle can't be there to correct their children's manners, let alone a child's delinquent behavior. There is a growing culture of juvenile offenders because during the few hours they are physically in their parent's care, parents are not parenting. Kids are on their iPads or being idle.
Homeschooling offers Balance
Of course, homeschooling can solve this problem by providing families with the flexibility and balance to have part time help while still meeting their child’s emotional, spiritual and educational needs.
Godly parenting and discipline has been replaced with iPad kids, "gentle" parenting, permissive parenting and outright neglect.
Menacing children are a direct result of Faux-DINKs not parenting their children
After a child misbehaves or commits a crime, everyone asks "where are the parents?"
Here is a video of a young child intentionally destroying product in Walmart. https://www.facebook.com/reel/562286209865465
Here is a video of a child puncturing the tire of a vehicle. https://www.facebook.com/share/r/18XC6kzptk/
A thread on a local neighborhood FB group asking for advice on handling menace unsupervised minors at the park in Sept 2024.
Juvenile crime is happening because Faux-DINKS are not raising their kids:
Here is a news segment talking about a 10 yr old being charged after stealing a car. The police officer speaks about how juvenile offenders getting younger. https://youtu.be/izyIsjiKKvo?si=30Dyqsq8WazwcVzF
5 girls ages 12-15 were arrested because they beat a disabled man to death because they were bored. Where were their parents? Who did not tell them "Thou shall not to kill"? You or someone you know could someday be a victim of random acts of violence. https://www.theblaze.com/news/dc-disabled-elderly-stomped-death?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=dlvr.it_fb_glenn-beck&tpcc=social_fb-post
Mackenzie Shirilla was 17 years old when she intentionally drove her car into a building, killing her boyfriend and his friend in the process.
June 2023: A 12 yo stabbed her brother to death. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12165191/Inside-tragic-life-Tulsa-girl-12-stabbed-younger-brother-death.html
School shootings are often carried out by children. In A 6 yo boy intentionally shot his VA Teacher in January 2023. The Winder, GA shooter was 14 years old. Ethan Crumbley was 15 years old when he attacked his school in Michigan. In all three of these cases, parents were also sentenced for their part in the crimes.
There has been a number of "dumpster baby" cases of teen mothers who were able to hide their pregnancy, give birth in secret and ultimately dispose of their newborns. All, while living under the same roof as their parents. Alexee Trevizo, Angela Newberry, and the unnamed 16yo Ohio teen are examples of these recent cases. This is the Cleveland, Ohio story. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/two-infants-dead-garbage-cleveland-rcna85692 Alexis Avila was another case. Her baby was rescued by dumpster divers.
Faux-DINKS are not Active in their Children's Learning Process
Parents are generally disengaged in their child's learning. For example:
Parents are leaving discipline to the school administration which is not capable of providing an adequate level of structure, correction, and consequences.
Parents are sending their children unprepared for learning, such as: lacking the necessary school supplies, without appropriate dress, and their children expect to be able to use distracting devices, such as texting with parents and others in class, which disrupts the learning process in school.
Parents are not aiding their children in learning the concepts that are necessary to succeed in school, such as not directing them do their homework and not tutoring them in subjects that they need help with.
The result of parents non-involvement in the learning process is: children are disrepecting teachers, engaging in bullying behaviors, failing literacy and mathematics standards, failing to pass standardized tests in progression towards higher education, inability to comprehend basic concepts and make logical conclusions, and inability to communicate with others in a coherent way for their expected age level.
Parents are Generally Disengaged
1/ 25: An 8 yr old girl passed away when she was dropped off at school. https://people.com/new-details-emerge-from-tragic-accident-at-school-drop-off-that-killed-2nd-grader-8781355?utm_campaign=peoplemagazine&utm_content=photo&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_term=%7B%7B.ShareRef%7D%7D&fbclid=IwY2xjawIGUuBleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABHR0_ACT6vQAKs1HvAOuhKozgXEHaUTX-CmfRu99mrjncKZAKC-pTp5UiGA_aem_X9nU9Z5K6FEe2EVJQv2xug
Faux DINK parents don't know what to do with their kids during school breaks. This is toxic. Stop normalizing this. Part of parenting is physically having to be with them sometimes and scheduling activities for them.
The belief that "my kids are not my problem" mentality needs to stop. Stop funding the negligent Faux-DINK parent culture. Do not continue voting to give blank checks to the public school system! DNR Public school funding. https://www.homeschoolgateway.org/dnr
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