Do the "Friendship Pact" Challenge
- rstinson10
- Nov 2, 2024
- 4 min read
Updated: Jan 3
The Friendship Pact is a plan of action to be intentional about being true friends with others in real life.
It is my observation that most people do not have friends anymore. I truly believe that making and maintaining friendships in real life is an important life skills that has become a "lost art". I think part of the problem is that people need the encouragement and tips on where to start. So, be the brave one: make the first move, text that cool mom that you like, and make those plans!
I have written this for Moms; however, it can be used by anyone who wants to expand their friendship circle. Dads should be making friends too!
I truly believe that the journey of Motherhood is special, but also unique. We should have our village to go to for advice and support, but also we need to be the village and give that support as well. If Moms aren't getting together and forming friendships, where can we go to for advice? If we're all sitting at home and endlessly scrolling on social media, when and how will we connect with one another?
I wrote this to encourage you to do your part to maintain your friendships with other Moms. Hopefully, the other people in your life reciprocate and are texting you, hosting meetups and mailing you cards as well.
Make it a goal to do at least one social activity per day. For example, you could RSVP for a party, text a friend, invite someone over, chat with another mom at dance class, or edit your address book, etc.
Make it a goal to host or attend a meetup once a week or once every two weeks: a double date, a playdate or Moms' night.
Make it a goal to have one social interaction with each friend, one time per month or once every two months. Either they initiate or you do.
Organize a Moms night at a local restaurant.
Compliment a stranger in the store.
Invite a mom friend for dinner or coffee at a local counter service restaurant.
Arrange a double date with another couple.
Text or call a friend to see how they are doing.
Invite someone over for a playdate at your home.
Invite another Mom to coffee or dinner at a local coffee shop.
Organize a Moms night at your home.
This Christmas mail Christmas cards to your friends. Get the kids involved by decorating them with festive stickers.
Make an address book in Excel. Organize your contacts in a way that makes sense.
Be brave at the next party or community event and chat with at least one other mom. exchange phone numbers- don’t forget to contact them soon to meetup!
Meet your neighbors. You can go to their door and knock or make a note and put it in their mailbox. We usually go to their door and leave a note if they are not home.
Here's an example: "Hi. Welcome to the neighborhood!" If they are new. or "we just moved to the area" if you are new.
"We are *your names* and we live 4 doors down from you at ______ with our 3 kids. We would love to have you over one day for coffee. Feel free to text or call me and we can set something up soon. my number is_______."
Plan accordingly. Be sure to have coffee and juice for kids if they bring their children. Also, maybe include cookies or another snack to share.
If going to their door, introduce yourself. Then end by saying "it was nice meeting you. I'd love ot exchange numbers with you If you need anything like recommendations feel free to let me know."
Even if you don't end up being best friends, this is important face to face community. It is a generally good idea ot know your neighbors and have their number. We have had several interacttions with different neighbors over the years. Once a neighbors dog escaped into our yard. A few times packages were delivered to our house by mistake. Once, my neighbor had a reunion and asked me to take a group picture.
After your next party, mail thank you cards to your friends.
If your friend is recovering from surgery, grieving over a loss, or welcoming a new baby, you should participate in a meal train to help them. You might also consider setting it up for them if no one has done so already. https://www.mealtrain.com
Send a sympathy card in the mail for a friend who is grieving
Attend a birthday party and buy a thoughtful gift.
RSVP for a party you were invited to. Even if you cannot make it, thank the host for the invitation and let them know you are not able to attend.
Reach out to moms in a parent group and plan a blind date meetup.
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